A Story of Truth, Hope, and Healing


In "To Be Loved," Frank delves into the transformative experiences of love, acceptance, and personal growth, encouraging readers to embrace their true selves.

This book isn't just a narrative; it's an invitation to join a community that celebrates vulnerability, resilience, and the genuine connections that shape our lives. Discover how embracing authenticity can lead to profound healing and a deeper connection with those around us.

To Be Loved unveils the compelling and deeply personal journey of Dr. Frank Anderson, a renowned trauma therapist who bravely shares his own story of childhood abuse and dark family secrets for the first time. Despite his professional success and magnetic exterior, Dr. Anderson's early life was a battleground of identity struggles within a complex familial environment, marked by a longing for acceptance and a facade of a perfect life that eventually crumbled.

This revelation leads him to profound realizations about resilience, forgiveness, and the true meaning of love, transforming his narrative from one of suffering to hope. His journey offers invaluable insights for anyone seeking to overcome trauma and live authentically. The book stands as a beacon for both individuals grappling with their past and professionals in the mental health field, illuminating the path toward healing and the transformative power of truly understanding what it means to be loved.

"A harrowingly self-revealing and tenderly self-loving memoir of trauma and transformation, by Gabor’s colleague, respected psychiatrist, therapist, and teacher, Dr. Frank Anderson."

Dr. Gabor Maté

International bestselling author

"To Be Loved is a deeply moving memoir that is certain to touch your soul and open your heart. Frank’s personal trauma recovery journey provides a roadmap for healing and cultivating loving relationships, beginning with the most important one of all- the relationship we have with ourselves. Drawing from his years of experience as a renowned therapist, Frank empowers us to embrace vulnerability, release old wounds, and cultivate self-compassion. To Be Loved is a game-changer for anyone ready to experience profound healing and create a life overflowing with love and abundance."

Gabby Bernstein

#1 NYT Best Selling Author

"A passionate, courageous, and inspiring work."

Bessel van der Kolk

#1 New York Times bestselling author

“To Be Loved is a beautifully written and empowering story of resilience, healing, and forgiveness that offers hope for all survivors of childhood trauma.”

Nicole LePera

PhD, #1 New York Times bestselling author

“Moving and masterful! Filled with humor, empathy, and candid self-reflection, Frank’s story demonstrates the power to heal childhood trauma, develop resilience, and ultimately find love, forgiveness and restoration.”

Lori Gottlieb

New York Times bestselling author

“In To Be Loved we are inspired to reflect on how our own minds work and ways to empower ourselves to face challenging relationships with integrity, compassion, and forgiveness.”

Daniel J. Siegel

MD, New York Times bestselling author

“An inspiring, must-read memoir for anyone who has experienced childhood trauma or has a loved one who has suffered through this ordeal.”

Dr. Shefali

PhD, New York Times bestselling author


About Frank Anderson

I am an author, psychiatrist, therapist, speaker and trauma specialist who’s spent the past three decades studying neuroscience and trauma treatment.

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To Be Loved - Events

Book Launch Party with Frank Anderson hosted by Janina Fisher
May 9, 2024
5pm Est
Disclosing Vulnerability Outside the Therapy Room:
June 20, 2024
2pm CDT